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Archives for September 2019

Finding the Right Amount of Effort

September 22, 2019 by Kevin Miescke Leave a Comment

Musician’s are experts at exerting effort. It is difficult to find a more driven and passionate group of people anywhere, but sometimes we try too hard.

In his book, Advice Not Given, Dr. Mark Epstein explains his perception of Right Effort through a Buddhist story about a musician turned monk (Epstein, 123-124). In this story, Sona, an ex-lutist, is struggling in his meditation efforts despite the great amount of effort he is putting forth. When the Buddha hears about this, he uses Sona’s musical experience to help him. Through a series of questions, he compares the strings of a lute to the effort Sona was applying to his meditation, just as a string that is too tight or too loose, one’s effort must also find a balance between too much and too little. This Buddhist parable is a lovely one, and you can watch a nice animated version of the whole story here. 

Often in meditation it is easy to get caught up in trying to “do it correctly.” I have found that musicians are especially primed to adopt this approach in their mindfulness practice. It can be difficult to let go of this striving while meditating, but often when excess effort dissolves one’s meditation practice can deepen.

Applying this idea to playing an instrument or singing, a similar need arises to find a balance between too much and too little effort. As a brass player and teacher, I see this approach all too often in students and professional alike. But no matter your discipline, trying to force something only leads to frustration. In my experience, backing off the effort even by a small amount can make achieving the desired technique or sound come much easier.

It is difficult to describe the difference between too much or too little effort. It might be helpful to think of this as dancing with your instrument, instead of battle against it. When I am trying too hard, it feels like I am trudging through deep mud, but when my effort finds the perfect middle ground, making music feels easy and playing my instrument becomes much more enjoyable. 

Next time you are struggling with a difficult passage of music, a good way to help let go of excess effort is to move your awareness off of the goal itself. I have seen good results with students and myself when the object of one’s focus moves around to different parts of the body while making music. You can also rest your awareness on sensations that are present while playing, such as vibrations, tingling, the rising and falling of the breath, and others. This helps to release some of the effort that might be holding you back from achieving what you were working on. 

Works cited

Epstein, Mark. Advice Not Given: A Guide to Getting Over Yourself. New York: Penguin Press, 2018.

Filed Under: Attention, Books, Effort, Performance

Learning to Drop the Second Dart

September 8, 2019 by Kevin Miescke Leave a Comment

Darts in a dart board

Some types of suffering are unavoidable in life: Physical pain or illness, rejection, loss of loved ones. But often times the suffering we experience comes from our  reactions to situations, adding a second round of suffering. There is a Buddhist teaching that discusses the pain of two darts. The first dart is the unavoidable physical or emotional pain that we feel at certain points in our life. The second dart, the one that is avoidable, comes from the mental reaction to that pain which adds to our suffering.

In his book, “Buddha’s Brain” Rick Hanson describes this concept of the first and second darts, and the physiological processes that accompany them. 

“First darts are unpleasant to be sure. But then we add our reactions to them. These reactions are ‘second darts’—the ones we throw ourselves. Most of our suffering comes from second darts” (Hanson, pg. 50).

What Dr. Hanson is describing is something that happens throughout our day, often without us noticing. Someone might not say hi to us in the hallway, and suddenly we are imagining all of the possible ways we could have upset them. “Maybe I said something in the meeting that upset them, or maybe they are mad at me for not including them at last week’s party?” These reactions or ruminations are completely fabricated and usually are not helpful for navigating the present moment. 

This kind of internal disquiet is very common in the world of music, especially when considering the unavoidability of occasional mistakes. To make great music you have to take risks, and along with those risks can come mistakes. We have all felt that sinking feeling immediately following a mistake: an instinctual physical reaction that is generated from the disappointment of not playing or singing something in the way that we had intended. The second dart comes in from the mental reactions to that brief second. From that one mistake, completely fabricated outcomes begin to creep into our imagination, such as “This group is never going to hire me again,” or “Great, now everyone here knows I am a fraud—They think I’m completely worthless,” or “I am never going to make it as a musician.” 

If you take a step back and look at these ruminations, you can see how blown out of proportion they are, but in the moment it is more difficult to notice. This kind of thinking can become so prevalent that sometimes even the first dart can be fabricated without our realizing it. 

When you are living the life of a freelance musician, there are times when someone else will get a call for a job that you where hoping to get. This is part of life for all musicians in some way or another. Usually, the person in charge of hiring had no ill intent when they chose another musician over you, but a common reaction is to follow another mental path. We instead fabricate a scenario where we are the victim of an attack, that the personnel manager has something against us, or that they don’t think that we can hack it. 

Reactions like these are not helpful. It can be difficult to catch the second dart before it hits home, but a good first step is to simply notice when you have created an unhelpful reaction to a situation. You will start to see how much of an impact our mental reactions to things can have on us and those around us. Be kind and patient with yourself, and trust that by starting to notice these reactions you are working toward preventing them all together. 

Works Cited

Hanson, Rick. Buddha’s Brain: the practical neuroscience of happiness, love & wisdom. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2009.

Filed Under: Awareness, Books, Reactions